By G. Craige Lewis | Founder of EX Ministries & Pastor of Adamant Believers Council, Grand Prairie, TX
The internet and social media can work against us at times because they both operate based on non-verbal communication. Non-verbal dialogue can hinder communication and even deter spiritual discernment. You see, in order to effectively communicate with full understanding, we must talk to each other face-to-face. When we are texting or emailing, or even video conferencing, we are limited in our ability to get a full understanding of each other’s mood, intent and message. According to Forbes, as human beings, our only real method of connection is through authentic communication.
Studies show that only 7% of communication is based on the exchange of written or verbal words. However, a whopping 93% of communication is based on non-verbal body language. Indeed, it’s only when we hear a person’s tone of voice or see their facial expression that we can fully gauge the message that they are sending to us. Effective communication and full understanding requires us to look into someone’s eyes. It’s only then that we’re able to know when “I’m fine” doesn’t mean they’re fine at all or when “I’m in” doesn’t mean they’ve bought in at all.
So, without the non-verbal body language and dispositions, it’s hard for us to even know when we need to discern something or when we truly are getting a good understanding. This can sometimes cause confusion and hinder our ability to maintain healthy relationships. I’m not knocking the internet and social media all together, because it does have it’s benefits. However, we must not allow electronic communication to rule over us or to totally replace our verbal, person-to-person communications.
A periodic fast from social media is necessary at times. A temporary unplugging can be very beneficial. An intentional effort to fellowship and enjoy the company of like minded believers should be every believer’s goal. These things keep us balanced and give us the strength of others to sharpen us. We must not allow our devices and “followers” on social media sites to rule our lives. But, we must make a conscious effort to enjoy more beneficial, healthy human interaction.
Heb. 10:24- 25 And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works: Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching.